After militancy for self‐determination and Independence started in 1989 in the Kashmir Valley, more than eight thousand Kashmiri men have been subjected to enforced disappearance by the Indian Army. In 1994 the Association of Parents of the Disappeared Persons (APDP), a female‐dominated movement, began to search for these disappeared men. In this article, I trace the everyday agency and activism of an APDP activist amid the entrenched militarization of Kashmir. In mainstream Western feminist understanding, gendered agency is often seen as aggressive and openly subversive. In this analysis, agency emerges as more nuanced than, and thus different from, a simple notion of confrontational resistance to oppression. I use the Foucauldian paradigm of micropolitics, specifically focusing on its biopolitical aspect, to ethnographically illustrate how a particular APDP activist performs and sustains her public activism. By theorizing the Kashmiri language's term Asal Zanan, which translates as “a good woman,” I illustrate how a finer understanding of agency emerges, which may not only appear in stereotypical and confrontational forms but also with deeply contextual and cultural nuances.