Non Violent Resistance (NVR) aims to change family relationships, when children and young people show violent, aggressive or self‐destructive behaviour. Trauma in multi‐stressed families necessitates an adaptation of the original NVR approach in order to meet these clients' specific therapeutic needs when child violence arises. The author has developed such an adaptation. This article gives an overview of the larger system aspect of the adapted NVR model, illustrating how NVR core principles are applied to help family members develop a sense of safety within the larger system, so the nuclear family itself can become a safe and supportive recovery environment. Practitioner points By differentiating between interaction patterns, parents identify safe supporters within the larger system to help develop effective responses to harmful child behaviour Therapeutic conversation centres parents’ own formulation of their support needs, in order to regain their voice and experience personal agency Effective resistance to problem behaviour grows by engaging other adults in ways that facilitate parents’ access to internal and interpersonal resources 多重压力下的家庭, 儿童暴力和大环境：对非暴力模式的一种调整 非暴力抵抗（NVR）旨在当儿童和青少年呈现暴力、攻击或者自残行为时, 改变家庭关系。多重压力下的家庭经历的创伤使对原有NVR方法的调整变得必要, 这样才能在儿童暴力行为出现时满足来访者特定的治疗需求。本文作者进行了这样一种调整。本文对于调整后的NVR模式的大环境方面进行了概述, 阐释了NVR的核心原则如何在大环境下运用于家庭成员, 以帮助他们发展安全感, 并事核心家庭自身成为痊愈过程的安全、支持性的环境。 对实务工作者的启示 通过辨别不同的互动模式, 家长可以在大环境中辨识出安全的支持者, 来协助形成对有害儿童行为的有效回应。 治疗性谈话将家长自己关于支持需求的想法置于中心地位, 以便家长能够重新获得话语权并体验自我效能感。 通过促进家长获得自身和他人资源的方式让其他成年人参与, 可以增强对于问题行为的有效抗拒。 关键词：行为问题, 儿童青少年心理健康, 家庭暴力, 会网络, 创伤