The idea of meta‐dialogue has evolved over the past twenty years. The study reported here focuses on meta‐dialogue, analysing the importance of reflective practices for thoughtfulness and embodiment in couple therapy for psychological Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). The study also sought to determine whether, in a case of psychological IPV, reflective practices helped the couple to acquire a new, shared understanding of violence. The results showed that the use of both meta‐dialogue and of a reflective team was related to clients' use of the reflexive mode. Moreover, embodiment could be understood as a precursor of reflectivity and reflective practices. Finally, the results indicated that it was possible to discuss the issue of violence through the use of meta‐dialogue, and that, through the therapists' reflective dialogue, the clients were able to reflect on their own relational patterns. The importance of meta‐dialogue and embodiment for conjoint therapy in psychological IPV is discussed. Practitioner points Meta‐dialogue is present in therapy as: (a) reflective practices (therapists' strategies to promote a reflective stance); and (b) reflectivity (i.e. action of reflecting) Consider the importance of therapist sensitivity to embodiment in conjoint therapy for IPV in helping to reflect on what is happening in therapy, thus promoting use of meta‐dialogue 具体化和反思性实践：针对亲密伴侣精神暴力的联合疗法 元对话的概念在最近二十年有所发展。本研究聚焦于元对话, 分析夫妻治疗中以体贴和具体化为目的的反思性实践对于处理亲密伴侣精神暴力的重要性。本研究也尝试确认, 在亲密伴侣暴力的情况下, 反思性实践是否会帮助伴侣双方获得一种新的对暴力的共同认知。研究成果显示, 运用元对话和反思性小组都与来访者使用反思性模式有关。此外, 具体化可以被认为是反思和反思性实践的前兆。最后, 研究结果显示, 通过元对话的运用来讨论暴力话题是可能的, 并且, 通过治疗师的反思性对话, 来访者能够反思他们自己的关系模式。本文最后讨论了元对话和具体化对于亲密伴侣暴力的联合治疗的重要性。 对实务工作者的启示 元对话作为治疗中的：（a）反思性实践（治疗师为了促进反思态度的策略）；以及（b）反思性（即反思的行为） 考虑治疗师在亲密伴侣暴力联合治疗中对具体化的敏感性对于帮助反思治疗过程和促进元对话的使用的重要性 关键词：元对话；反思性实践；具体化；亲密伴侣暴力；夫妻治疗